Its a new year...

I want to dream for next few moments because there are still few minutes left in this year. I want to close my eyes to see what I have not been able to see with open eyes. I want to see what all has covered my eyes from within that has made everything I see not so perfect for me. I want to remove every thin layer that has layered upon my eyelids that do not allow me to dream with morning sunlight trying to enter my eyes. Can I make the last 32 minutes of this year special for me, for my family and my well wishers to that extent that would make sense out of what I think could be of no sense.

Year end comes every year and we always welcome the coming year with some resolutions which we promise to fulfill in the coming year. We seldom share our resolutions with our friends. I remember this used to be a topic in our school to talk upon for few minutes and we used to think what all possible words, or sentences I can speak to make or prove myself to be the most intelligent and sensible student in my class. Years keep on changing and our resolution also kept on changing. We always made resolutions thinking that this may solve our problems or may add on to out success. Sometimes we were not able to find it right when we were supposed to implement them in our life. May be our dreams and resolutions started getting separated from each other and so we found ourselves sometimes following our resolutions and sometimes our dreams.

We all want ourselves to be happy and our family to be happy because we live with only. After that we think of happiness of our friends which are also important part of our life. Then we think of few strangers which are not part of our life but we think that in future they can be part of our life. Can we start thinking of those people who we neither know nor they would ever become part of our life in future and still they need our wishes every time.

While I was purchasing some sweets for my family from market today, I saw few poor people standing in market just to have few coins with which they can manage their bread for two times a day or manage to bring smiles on faces of their children who also wanted to celebrate new year with whatever they could have. If we cannot give them any coins when they ask for, thinking that they do not go for work where they can earn money instead of begging, we can wish for their happy life. If we have are a living standard where we rarely have to face any such crisis, so we do not need good wishes from any well wishers of us because we know we can make for ourselves, we can wish for poor people who have no one to pray for them.

Can we make this for them. This will surely add bits of hope within them.

Can we make it better for the people who we do not know and will never come to know. There's still 15 minutes left for 12 and new yr. Let me again close my eyes so that I can pray for them.

Happy New Year Due Dreams and happy new year to every individual who is associated with it.

Something & Nothing... better than each other.

Is it too true to believe when people say "Something is better than nothing"?

If I think that I have lived approx one fourth of my life, I could say that I have faced various situations where I was proud to say to feel and to declare that, at times, "Nothing was better than something". Its nothing like we won or loose something in our life as it does not matter how wealthy or successful you become in your life, we all die one day and that too bare-handed. Then why all pains, sorrow and envy with the ones who are like us only, striving to live a better life than it could otherwise be. Being a human we all have nature to adopt two types of environments. The one we see, feel, touch, smell, and listen. The other is what we are made to see, made to feel, made to touch, made to smell and made to listen. A kid never wants to listen to his class teacher reading A,B,C....Z but wants to listen the noise of his bench-mate crying or giggling but he is made to listen to A,B,C...Z which we all know he will come to know one day for sure. A mother knows that her child wants to play outside with other children but will not allow him to do so thinking if he sits with his book for that much time, he will gain something, though not everything. See how the world and our world best mothers think of us and we love them :)

My regular readers will be introduced with a very interesting topic in upcoming posts in Due Dreams where I will be covering why the unwanted and undesired things happen in our lives and it will always be like that only so better do not expect any change based on what you like and what others not.

We live in a world or, in a precise form, a society where every term, every relation, every feeling, every task, job, every intension and even every person has to be well defined. It has to be like that. For example: a boy has to always study in childhood and young age, do a job after that, marry and look after his family thereafter. A girl has to study in childhood, marry afterwards and look after her family. A friend has to help his/her friend always, share things, and take care of him or her. A father has to look after his family and job. A mother has to look after her children and husband. A cook has to cook food for his customers at hotel which forms a part of his daily life, though boring but he has to do so.

If we see a friend taking too much care of his/her friend, helping more than he is supposed to, loving his/her friend more than he is supposed to then this becomes a subject of discussion. Not only this, if we see a boy not studying after school days when he is supposed to do his graduation and does not earn in the way he is supposed to do, we look at him in a different way. If we found a girl not bothered about her family to that extent she is supposed to or is not able to give that much time, she is supposed to give, to her children and husband, she is not considered as fit for that family. If a cook at a famous hotel is not able to cook delicious food, though he may be able to serve the customers the best, he is most likely to be thrown out of that hotel. Hotel management course itself says that it is equally important to serve to the customers as to cook delicious food for them. Not only these certain examples but there are uncountable examples which tell us that we are living in well defined and well driven society which allows us to enjoy freedom provided we live by the rules and regulations set by them and any + or - from them will make you a subject of discussion which is never considered good.

That means I am not supposed to think beyond that. If I am a software engineer, I am not supposed to attend any musical concert just to avoid that I may learn music, which may change my mindset to leave IT field and start with my own musical band. I am even not supposed to study life of great saints, because it may fear my parents that one day I may leave all wealth and other worldly things saying that they does not mean to me anymore. If a boy or a girl like any other boy or girl whom they call their best friend and are not of same or some same level caste, they cannot not marry each other, no matter how much they love or fit for each other. It simply becomes unacceptable for the society they belong to. Now think of a boy or a girl who has a strong feeling for each other but cannot express just because it may turn out to be a nightmare if this is declared and their parents would not be able to live in society where this act is simply un-acceptable. We all love our parents and for them, we cannot take that chance that because of us they have to suffer and this we all do. Few take courage to drive things out in their way but it is not possible for everyone to do so. They just have to become best friends ever after. Now what about the feelings which they have for each other. Don't ask where from those feelings came from when they knew from the very starting that this will happen one day and they must be prepared with this too. I accept that love has power to make big changes but these things are not to be dealt that way. I believe that even if the two people who love each other are not allowed to get married, they always have the feeling with them for each other.

Before that I continue with this topic, let me discuss what I think of the root cause of our problems and I am saying this here because it is related to the word "define" which I have covered in above paragraphs. Think of any problem in our life and we would find that we thought of something else but it happened out to be something else. We never intensionally commit mistakes. It just happens when we define every thing in our life to be something specific or the other. Let me make this clear with an example. I may define my friend as a person who considers me as an important person and understands me, helps me in times of need, shares his happiness and grief with me and be honest with me throughout the lifetime, provided I also be like this to him/her. When I meet any person who in future becomes my friend, I start expecting that this is the person whom god has sent to me as a friend and he/she will fulfill all my expectations which I have defined for a friend. Till the time, he or she meets that, he or she is my best friend but the moment that person changes, we feel hurt. If things go worse thereby putting us in trouble, we are in a problem. Not only with friend, it happens with every relationship and everything we have in our life. If we are able to make definitions on the basis of people we meet, our life becomes easy as our definition now do not depends upon the role which we give to any person or thing but it has no role, just a person with us with whom we are most comfortable with.

Now coming back to my topic where I left, the feelings which remain with that boy will continue to deviate himself in life in many ways and these deviations would not be good ones. Similar would happen to that girl also. So, if I say that both of them had some feelings left for each other, their life would have been problem free if they had no feelings left for each other. They would not have deviated from what-ever they do in their life. These feelings become nice memories but if this "something" was "noting", their life could have been happier at present if they did not keep thinking for what happened. In student life, when we score less in a test, we often say that we should not have given that test so that these less marks would not have discourage us.

If today I need 50 Rs. and I have 100 Rs. I would think that I have enough to spend it and I may not think of how spendthrift I have been in past. But if I have only 10 Rs. with me, when I need 50 Rs., I will think of that moment when I used to give Rs. 2 extra to auto, instead of travelling in city bus daily while going to college. Again having "something" did not make me realize something which having "nothing" made me realize.

After thinking much on this topic, I came to conclusion, if the things have tendency to change our life in expected or unexpected way, why do we make our happiness or unhappiness depend upon these things. Things always change on the basis of what we do in our life. If today I feel dis-hearted and discouraged, we can not take good decisions and thus my life can continue to go worse after this also. But if I myself remember of the good times of my life when I was appreciated, or rewarded or I am made to remember of those times when I really felt great, we feel motivated and then we can think positive and definitely we will be able to take good decisions and good decisions lead to a better life.

Good times and bad times come in our life one after the other so its like the pendulum swinging before us so whenever we feel down, just have enough courage to move the pendulum the other direction. That's all I want to convey through this post.

Merry Christmas week to all my readers and a wonderful new year thereafter and a very happy belated anniversary to Due Dreams... its now one year old.