Dreams only... one more year.

Am I right???... probably the question which on one hand tries to put us on the safer side and on the other hand creates a lot of confusion. I never thought this when I wrote Due Dreams for the first time and it became my first post the moment I wrote the second one and then one after the other. Before I wrote the second post, it was my only post as I never thought that time that I will continue with this. I just write it whatever I feel for the topics on which I sometimes think or they somehow come across my life. On some topics I first thought and then wrote while on others I wrote as I kept thinking.

I used to think that everything that happens in our life, happens for a reason and its the fact also. Though I knew that it is the truth, I made myself to believe that everything does not happen for a reason. People come and go, opportunities come and go, happiness come and go, grief come and go. These things come and go because they had their definite time in our life and they cannot stay in our life neither less than they had nor more than anyone wanted to. We always want happy moments to remain in our life for some more time than they are made for and for sad moments, we want them to go away as soon as possible but this generally does not happen. I do not know what is decided for all of us by the all mighty. I only know that things have to go on. If we are born, we are supposed to live, suppose to live for others too and supposed to dream all what we can and let them affect us irrespective of whether they come true or not.
Its now 2 years since I started writing Due Dreams. I mentioned in first part that we are not able to fulfill all of our dreams in our lives and some dreams always remain as due for us. It has been a journey where I mentioned all small and big aspects of life which I have thought so far. I do not have a long list of readers and I received mix feedback from them. Someone said I was able to do a pretty good justice with my topic while others found it simply boring.
I personally feel that reasons also have their lifetime for us as some reasons do not live with us forever. The only example I have here for this is my reason of writing this. I do not think I have any reason left to continue writing this. I have something else for me and its MyThings where I will continue and that is something meant only for me.

I would like to thanks to my readers for encouraging me in the journey of Due Dreams. I wish I will be able to write once more here for the coming new year but consider this to be one of my dreams. If I write, it will come true else it will be one of my Due Dreams.

Bits and Parts

Life, though appears to be a circular path in which events keep on occurring and repeating, may be entirely different for a few other people. It can be because the stage of our life has become very crowded and many unwanted and unexpected circular paths, belonging to different people, come across our's. I always believe that each and every person coming in our life comes for a reason and has something to do in it. That person could be a stranger or a known but unexpected person or a very close friend of ours and could have a great impact in our life.

As I have been writing in my previous blogs that we meet several people in our life, we like a few of them and we love quite a few out of them. I may meet a person whom I consider quite impressive for me. I can give him or her a very special place in my life. Its quite obvious that if I like that person, I will allow that person to affect my life with my goodwill. The circular path for that person would be allowed to intersect mine path. I will not object this as I know that person. They become a PART of our life and we tend to find our-self complete in presence of them.

On the other hand, I can bump into a person whom I have never known and all of a sudden a word or a sentence uttered by him or her can sound me meaningful enough to consider that to be something to be learnt from. This happens all of a sudden and we cannot avoid that from happening. I cannot say that this becomes a significant part of my life but it will be considered as a BIT of my life in which I learnt something from an uninvited person. That person can leave at anytime without affecting me by their presence or absence.

Its not like anyone lives a perfect life, its perfect because it appears us to be a perfect one. We all learn a lot from these bits and parts. Its also true that we can decide the parts but cannot decide the bits coming in our life.  

If we are asked to give preference to these bits and parts, we will definitely prefer the parts over bits because parts come from person whom we choose whereas bits come from person whom we do not know and may never wish to know but it does not mean that they can be ignored. Learning obtained from people we do not know is equally important to us as the learning obtained from the known and liked ones. Life is full of teachers if we realize this fact. Its up to us whether we are able to find something before us as meaningful or not. The moment we start giving each and every moment of our life a meaning to realize its importance, we can say that we have tried to learn maximum from our life because life is like a book with never ending chapters.

Friends... always.

I may not tell whom I have lost recently. All I know is ... it was a dear friend. People to whom I speak, I meet, I see daily, I belong to... all are my friends because friendship does not have a definition of its own as its a sweet mixture of many relationships altogether in a quite decent and acceptable way. Friendship is not a bound relationship that one has to follow throughout life but it simply makes you happy when you continue your friendship throughout your life.

Even the most successful person on earth cannot live without someone with whom he cannot share everything which he may or may not want to share with everyone. Friendship means a privacy which we all get when we tell our secrets and we know that they will be kept secret. I may have something to tell my friend that is a sort of secret to me and may or may not be a secret to my friend but I know it will be treated like a secret only. Things are never complicated or easy. The only thing that matters is how we see them. I may not be understood by a person who is a very close friend of mine but may be understood by a person with whom I do not much interact.

Every person has got a different mentality and a different way of thinking. We all try to adjust with what we think and what is acceptable, throughout our life. "Acceptable" means what majority of people think which may or may not be always correct. Thus we cannot force any person to become a friend of ours. Its not like that God has decided how many friends we will have in our life but its simply like who we get and whom we are able to retain throughout our lifetime. The key to retain friends is to be what you are. People are said to have changed when either they have been someone else or they now try to be someone else. Apart from these reasons, humans as friends are not made so complicated they cannot be understood.

I have my own set of people whom I call my friends, as everyone has. We are always proud to have them and want them to be a part of our every big or small moment of happiness that comes in our life. However we do not want them to be a part of our hardships, at least I don't want them to be with me in my hardships, though they are always expected to be. It is well said that when we share our happiness, it increases and when we share our sadness, it decreases. Similarly when we share our happiness with our friends, it just doubles and when we share our sadness with them, it almost disappears. It does not matter how much a person can share my sadness or how much he helps me out. The only thing that matters is the presence. After-all the abilities or dis-abilities were never the criteria of making friends.

A day more and it will be a friendship's day for all of us. A day to remember our friends whom we never and even cannot forget. A day to make them feel that we are there with them throughout their life, no matter how far they live or how long they are not able to meet us. A day to give to people without whom we cannot say... we are happy as our happiness depends on them in similar way as their's depends upon us. Obviously this includes them also whom we daily meet, listen to and talk to and wish this to happen everyday.

Happy Friendship day to all my friends...

Things that are important.

The most important possession a person can have is a person only. Gems, currency, and lavishness used to be dreams of people. In modern age when a person wants peace in his/her life living in world where every moment every other person, not related to you, wants to take your advantage in some or other way. We cannot call them selfish as we ourselves are selfish at most of times. I am selfish because I don't live for myself only and want the people related to me happy at all times and this matters a lot to me. I may define a person selfish if he or she lives only for himself or herself but personally I feel we don't have any right to call a person selfish because we do not know what all comprises of himself or herself.

Relationships are not always defined. People just feel like liking someone or something. Though there are certain things that we all like with or without any reason. These include flowers, kids, music, snowfall, monsoon rain, some dish, a cellphone, a dress, a greeting card, or simply a piece of paper. We are attached to them in some or the other way. I may be attached to a flower, I once saw in my bad times, that came from a plant that I once planted in my good times. That may become a symbol that there were good times for me and there will be good times in my life in future as well. I may be attached to a shirt which my brother or parents may have gifted to me or some of my dearest friends have gifted to me. I may keep it always with me so as to consider that the people who gave that to me are with me every-time whenever I wear that shirt and I am far from them. There are in-numerable reasons of liking something or someone which we cannot define or explain to anyone.

When I say or define what is important to me I may be confused while doing so. This could be because I may listen to others while evaluating things for me. I may find a large amount of cash, or a lavish life or may be some exceptional success to be something very important to me. I may also consider a trip to a holy place, a donation to a charity institute, a surprise gift to my people which may bring a smile on their face or a silly act that may bring smiles on face of people who are though not related to me but their happy faces may encourage me to do such things. What I believe is if we think about us only at all times then our world would become limited to only a few people we know. We should try to do something for others also. After-all we humans are made to be affected by others happiness or sorrow also.

While I kept thinking about a perfect example about how a person can share a limited amount of happiness to any number of people, I found that we all have something amongst us that we can share to any number of people. Its love and affection which everyone wants. A cake is a very good example of that. A cake can be shared amongst any number of people. Though sharing a b'day cake to a large number of people may make pieces smaller in size but the feeling with which you are sharing with them will increase and you will make a number of people know you.

To understand a person, it is important to understand what is most important to him or her. If I am not able to respect someone's choice regarding what is most important to him or her, I may not be able to understand that person. Having something that is quite important to you is an achievement in itself. If I know what is most important to me, I can live for it only and will be happy throughout my life. But this strictly does not mean that we take this decision too quickly. Big decisions take time, so give sufficient time while choosing things important to you.

That's what all I think about giving importance to ourselves and making things really important to us because its not only about making things go right but its about making things go perfect up to the level of your thinking.

Happiness exists...

Even the word "Happy" has something extra that makes it "Happiness". Being happy is neither an art nor a state of mind. Its only a feeling that comes to us at times. No one in the world can remain happy at all times. God has made this world where even the king has to face hardships and a beggar can live a happy life. Its just when things are going right we feel that we are happy. Happiness is not having everything you want to have, not even living a king size life, and not even becoming a very successful person. These things used to be a source of happiness in past. Time has changed now and has brought some new and interesting things, provided we see them.

Everyone thinks of doing something that could be something different from what others have done in their life. I think that there are two worlds for every person. One which everyone thinks of like earning good, eating good and living a happy life. The other world is one which he sees from his eyes, his own eyes. A grand sum of money could be a dream of a person, a rare reality another person, and could be a need for some other person while for any businessman it could be a source of earning at least double to that sum of money. We see life the way we want to and this is the only thing I am able to make out from the live I have lived.

For a child, happiness could be a trip to Disneyland, for a student happiness could be becoming at top position in studies in his class or school, for a middle aged man, happiness could be the comfort lifestyle of his family. For an old man, happiness could be dedication to any holy work. If I am able to put some points which most of us think and believe I guess I have proved that happiness has different reasons and causes. So, one should not define his happiness so as to bind it around a set of reasons and causes. The only thing I would like to say is try to find out every smallest thing or cause that makes you happy, no matter how different it is from others.

Happiness could be dependent or independent i.e it may depend upon some other person's happiness also. When I am doing something that I know would make my best friend happy or any person, whom I admire, happy I would be glad to do that. You can spend as many funds on yourselves to make yourself happy but sometimes it may happen that you feel two times happiness by spending less than half of the amount on others. Try eating a pizza at dominoz and try giving a small chocolate to a small child. Then try thinking when did you feel more happiness. It is not a big thing today to realize that money cannot buy everything. The big thing is how you plan to make others and yourself happy.

Most of the times we feel sad over something or the other but we forget that happiness could be so near to you. The problem is we cannot see it and this is quite normal. We feel sad when something goes wrong. A small idea which I have and have used few times is to give up your dreams, your expectations one by one when you are sad. You know that your time is not good at this moment so you can give some of your expectations from current conditions and you will feel good. But while doing so, make a note of what all expectations and dreams you have given off so that you can have them again in your good times. This sounds simple but equally tough to do.

I tried a lot searching for happiness both inside and outside me and the only thing I found was that happiness comes on its own. One cannot force it to come to you nor cannot deny happiness coming your way. It will come and go on its own. The only thing we can do is not miss it whenever it comes to us because if we do so, we would be amongst many un-lucky ones who are not able to identify and let it go unattended.

Finally I would like to say is that if at any time you feel you cannot bring happiness to yourself, try bringing it to others. You can become source of happiness for some other person.

Love and let other's love you... thereby making this world even more happy place to live in.