Still against a Truth...

Something started with a reason, 3 years ago, and the reason is now no longer available. I have been thinking that for few days about what to write to publish on 28th November as it will be 25th post in Due Dreams and that too on completion of its 3rd year. Its no longer a duty for me to write whatever I think and sometimes want to think but its altogether a sort of creation that has been growing for years and that sometimes make me find answers that I had already answered to me and my readers from time to time in the past. Its more or less a reflection of my thoughts, which at time come out to be a combination of problems and their solutions and these solutions may or may not be the best of its type but that is something best that I can think and suggest, to myself and to everyone.
Its like I thought of living well and to help every individual to live well and in a well defined way so that we do not deviate from the path on which we are supposed to walk. Sometimes I think how different we all have become since the time we passed our last exam in school or college. In school or college we were forced to study, we were made to complete our assignments anyhow, no matter how many movies we missed, how many celebrations we had to loose and how many time we had to change our plans when we did not want to do what we were asked to do. There was a time when learning and studying was our only aim, either forced or thought of, we have to do that. We never had to bother about how heavy lunch we just had, we have to go and attend the sessions and coaching classes, irrespective of the fact we are feeling sleepy or not. We used to sleep late not because of any evening show or late night movies but to complete our assignments and homework so as to score good marks in class tests, or any exam. When our only achievement was when we got good marks and not when we had a good appraisal. Reaching school or college in time was our only task in the morning, with all well washed and ironed clothes and polished shoes.
Now the life has changed, we have time to check out for new releases coming every Friday, we now want to  be at the top of our work, irrespective of the fact we had worked that hard or not. People have strictly started following the saying that "Smart work is much better than Hard work." and this has somehow developed a tendency in us to avoid working hard and find out someone whom they can make work hard on their behalf and earn credit of their part, leaving them feel that their hard work has gone waste. This when happens again and again, makes the people loose faith in their hard work and bound to develop a skill that can use someone else in the same way they have been used in past. We no longer have that dedication to reach office on time and its because, by the time we gain experience in any work, we know what to say in which situation, to make ourselves safe. We prefer being stylish over being decent. We want to rest at weekends when we are asked to come to office for some urgent work but our obvious answer to any morning show, the same day, is always "yes". This is because movies are no longer a source of entertainment or knowledge but are now a source of learning new habits about how the Hero lived and fought in the movie.  We now have big goals but when it comes to work for them, we see if we want to study or not and we are often not in a mood to open a book for it. We do it only if we feel like. We wear the same dress again and again till the time it does not appears dull and polish our shoes only when we have to attend some party. In all other days, we leave our shoes as they are.
We see that previously we had non-AC classrooms where we used to read and write whole day and gain knowledge in any possible way. We had same old fashioned canteen where we spent our coins with great calculation and we were treated in a normal way so everything we gained, we actually earned it. But now, we work in AC rooms, and we have good quality tea/coffee machines and we are treated like gentlemen before actually we have started working. This somehow makes us get inhabited of getting things very easily. We want to get all our things on a single phone call but we do not want to visit any shop or workshop. We want the bank person to visit our office and do our job so that we don't have to struggle for our debit or credit cards. More and more things getting online have made our live easier and thus we no longer have the passion of working for each and everything we get and we have.
So the basic difference in the life we had many years back and now is that previously we have to earn each and everything for us, right from any person's behavior to any service or getting any work done whereas now we get things so easily that we think we do not have to work hard for anything in our life. People now have to put so many posts on social networking sites but do not have time to spend some time with their parents.

To conclude, I would like to say that we all have complaints for everyone saying or thinking that this or that person has changed but we never know how much we ourselves have changed. Its very easy to point out when some other person commits a mistake but we sometime never come to know what we have done. Sometimes there is no one's mistake and we go on blaming someone for it. We should understand that time ha changed for everyone of us and we are not like that anymore. However the feelings have remained the same for everyone we know but the way of expression has changed. We have become more practical than ever and so we think with other's mind and do what other's suggest us to do, considering it to be right. The act of being practical is given much more importance than any relation in today's life. We can easily give up any relation nowadays but cannot give up our attitude of being a practical person because we feel it completes us and makes us brave enough to face any difficulties in life. Being practical means preparing ourselves for every situation in our life based on some other person's experience and applying the same solution again and again, irrespective of the fact where we are applying it.

This practical thought is sometimes the reason for all problems in our life. We see and treat every person the same way and forget that every person is different from others. To be frank, I do not believe in being practical, though life has every now and then made me believe that being practical is very necessary and a good solution to almost every problem in our life.

Well, I am still against this truth. I still think different.

The Act.

An Act of Kindness is sometimes not expected from anyone. Sometimes even the person or the people who are quite close to us are not expected to do good to us, beyond a certain level. We call our friends as our best mates or the people who know us more than anyone else in the world and in the same way they also consider us one of the most important person in their life but when it comes to a favor, that favor is often evaluated, whether the person who did that should have done it or not.
This certainly does not happen every time we do for our best people but the situations sometimes make us or them believe that how come that person do this for me. We expect a generic behavior from the people whom we only know, a certain good behavior whom we consider good and expect a lot from people whom we consider best. So far in my life, I have seen this happening but have not been able to make out why this happens. Friendship or any relationship is not dependent on any distance and its not me who is saying this, its a quite general saying but in actual, distance has been playing an important role in deciding the life of any relationship. It can affect any relation that exists in the world, if not completely then at least partially.
If I have to judge people those exist in the world, on the basis of what they actually are rather than what they pretend to be sometimes or most of the times, I would say that there are some people who change up to a certain expected extent in their life and others change beyond a certain expected level. In almost all the cases the distance do not affect the people who do not change beyond expected level in their life. For everyone else, the distance factor always has a role to play. Distance is not a factor laid by God that can change any relation or in other words a bond between two people because if it was, it can be very easily predicted about the change in nature or behavior of anyone beyond an expected level.
So what it is, what actually makes us believe that the things are no longer like they used to be. What makes someone change their perception for the other person in the way that the mutual understanding or the facts on which they share some relation, becomes weak by the passage of  time. They no longer feel that the other person's presence is still required in their life and so far they have not been able to know this because he or she has been there with them. There is a very basic need in any relationship. Its something that both of the people involved in it do not expect things or their surroundings to change out of their will. But things change as we cannot control the outer world. Change in the faces that we see around us, the culture that we follow, the lifestyle that we live in, all these things tend to change our perception towards life. This eventually brings out that something different from within us that was hidden inside us for a long-long time because we never thought so. We try to see the world with new eyes. We expect the other person to understand this and consider that its just a total new experience for them and hence any deviation in their nature and behavior will not be taken too seriously as it is expected  to be a temporary change. Relations also depend on how much faith we have in each other. If we truly believe the other person, we can better understand them but if there have been some sort of misunderstandings amongst them from ever, the things may go tough.
Every relation demand some decency in some or the other form. If the relation is between people of opposite gender, this part becomes more sensitive. Both have to take care that they do not interfere in things that could affect this decency. A bit of transparency and extra care can help a lot here. But again, this has to be taken care from both  the sides equally.
It also depends upon the relationship which two people share. If its just knowing each other, the concerns, sharing of thoughts and experiences and give and take of advises will be considered accordingly. If the people involved are very close friends, the same advises and thoughts will be considered more seriously than otherwise be.
I believe that misunderstandings can enter in any relationship, be it a friendship or any other relationship. It depends upon mutual understandings of the people involved that how they are able to deal with all the different situations that come to them in their life, how well they are able to find solutions to the various problems that occur between them and most important how long they are able to maintain the respect and dignity of the relation that they share.
In my opinion, there is no shortage of people in the world but yes there is a huge shortage of true relations in the world. If you have people truly closed to you and really bother for you, its always good to give them equal attention which they deserve. Being humans, we all have an unwanted nature of taking things for granted but how we show this to others, matters a lot. So even if few people are of lesser importance to you but the other person is true to you, do not show that you take them for granted even if you do because you never know when you will loose gems while running after stones.

The Alternatives.

Necessity is the Mother of Invention. This is sufficient to bring out the various Alternatives in our life. My reason for picking up this topic is to discuss the intention behind the Alternatives that arise in our life. I believe that an Alternative means something that can replace something else that is more useful to us. I personally do not believe in alternatives, because they somehow decrease the value of something that we call Original. I know it means being impractical but I love being so.
From time to time, life gives us many things and many people. I seriously cannot think of people who take people for things so that's the reason of me mentioning them separately. I had my things which I consider as an essential part of my life because they were with me when I needed them. We call such person who remains with us in times of need as true person, then why not we consider our things to be that important. I enjoyed rain when I was driving my two-wheeler, I enjoyed chatting when my laptop was with me, I enjoyed music when my IPod/mobile phone was with me but cannot think of a reason when we do not give them the importance that they deserve. We enjoy our things and when time comes we never hesitate replacing them with things better than them. We sometimes consider other things to be more useful to us just because people  advice us so but for some questions in the world, there are no answers.
I had many people in my life to whom I have been very dear to. Many have been with me for a long time and few have left as and when the time changed. I never regret anything that goes out of my life for a genuine reason but have always regretted for things and people that go out from my life for non-genuine reasons. Its because they occupy some space within me and thus create a vacant space when they leave. At that time, I accept their departure with full respect. Departure with a fight or an argument reduces the possibility of that person or thing coming back into our life. Today, finding alternatives is considered a lot more easy to retain old things and people.
We all know how much our possessions are important to us, how much our near and dear ones mean to us. But sometimes we do not think before hurting them, sometimes considering them Taken for Granted. I believe the act of taking things for granted is a part of human nature which we all have but how you do it your way matters a lot. To understand this, just imagine that if something is taken for granted for you, there may be a chance that you are taken for granted for someone else and may be that person is so good that he or she is not letting you know this. This is truly appreciable. I accept that I have also done this in my life but proud to say that I have done it my way and I have done well.
If we have such important things with us which are of such a great value, how can we call something else as its Alternative? Creating alternatives shows how much practical you are and I personally believe being practical is nothing but a shortcut to solving your problems. When sometimes we want to escape from our problems, we become practical and then think as if the problem has been solved, cleverly. There's a difference between Intelligence and Cleverness. Intelligence is when you consider all the aspects of a problem and solve it. Cleverness means when you ignore the portions of a problem which you are not so good at and pretend to have solved whole problem when actually have solved only a part of it.
In my opinion, being intelligent is more important than being clever.
To conclude, I think we all should try our best to retain the original people and things in our life. We have issues with many things and many people but that doesn't mean we loose them or let them loose us. Looking into every aspect of problems that come across us and solving them with all calmness and mutual understanding is the best thing to do. The more we decrease the possibility of alternatives in our lives, the more we will find our-self happy and a lot more satisfied and believe me, there's actually no alternative to self-satisfaction.