Friends & Relationships

We met, became friends and then we fall in love with each other. Friendship, though is a very straight relationship, at times can become a very complicated one. Reason being some people become so much important to us that we think we cannot live without them. Though this never happens every time but when it happens, it changes your life. Life changes means your priorities changes. Now you no longer feel alone, you want to share your each and every moment with the person you consider precious to you, be it a happy moment or sad one. It does not matter to you what the other person will react. You only know that whatever be his/her reaction to that, it would be justified to us, either by our perception which could be somewhat hidden to us till the time we did not know the other person, or with the other person's perception which we find or tend to find reasonable. There could be innumerable reasons of believing any person.

Liking and loving a person are two different things. As I mentioned in my last blog that in this world we find meet hundreds of people, we like a few and love a very few, though my words are not same but meaning is same. We can like as many people as we want to but cannot love all of them. The reason for this is we cannot restrict ourselves to like as many people whom we admire. Somehow we have to restrict the number of persons whom we love and generally it is one. One more fact comes here to which majority of us may not agree but I somehow believe in it. A person can fall in love with more that one person in his/her life however we do not give all of them same place in our life and thats what is expected. This point could be further refined if I say that be it any person, we do not give that same place to any other person. So, if I like any person I may like his views, his values, looks, behavior, and nature. All other things like career, lifestyle, way of dressing, belongings, future and many more should not be considered to judge a person. In simple words when we like a person, we may like his or her both good and bad things but there is a difference between them whom we like and the one we love. We try to adjust or sometimes try also to improve the people whom we like in areas where they are not so good. We, however always give our best to make the person we love flawless. By doing this we wish to make the person the best for us.

My next few words could be harsh but I really do not believe in love at first sight. I could not think of any relationship which is based on the first impression of a person, based on which we can take one of the biggest decision of our life. First impression could not be the last impression of any person. Its like we do not behave the same with any other person, the way we behave with one person. A person could be formal to one person but could be entirely informal with the other. I may hear to what certain number of people are saying while I would like to listen from only a few of them. There's a slight difference between listening and hearing, and saying and telling. We do not pay attention to what we hear but when we start paying attention, it becomes listening. Similarly when we say something we expect a reply, but when we tell something we do not expect a reply. We just want to inform the other person. The way you talk to the person you like or love, indicates your affection to that person.

Certain people get nervous when they speak to the person they love and in this nervousness they sometimes commit silly mistakes. No matter how intelligent or extraordinary they are, they find their loved one's words very logical and sensible. They feel what is being said to them right and other things, even if it includes few things they believe in, not so important. We are in dreamy land and the only person we know is that person, only person we see is that person, only person we follow, we believe, we think of is only that person. We want to do anything for that person. Without expecting anything in return, except the feeling of being loved.

This is really what we think of our love life and we take every possible steps to achieve this. But if we think a little bit more about it, we will find that love never comes with only good times. We may have to face problems in our life in a relationship. The reason could be that when we enter into any relationship, we are not only in relationship with that person, but we get connected to many other people who are connected to that person. This includes his/her family also. We find difficulty when we find that those others do not think like us. Situations may or may not be that difficult for us. Again no one is to be blamed here. Reason being, we do not always get what we want and life is a good combination of problems and solutions. The best solution to this problems is to act normally, thinking your are at your home. So, you would take steps to solve your problems in the same manner as we do at our home. After-all love is required everywhere.

God has created us to live in this beautiful world. We actually add beauty to this world by filling it with love. Love makes us beautiful and makes things around us more beautiful. We all are loved by someone and similarly made to love someone, sometimes more than us and that's how life goes on.

Happy loving...